One of the most challenging things you have to do in recovery is rebuilding some of the relationships that have suffered during your addiction. Through the family therapy program at Sunflower Wellness Retreat in Osawatomie, Kansas, you can begin rebuilding relationships while you’re still in recovery. Of course, it won’t be easy to mend these broken ties, but our therapists are here to help you through the process.
Why You Should Prioritize Rebuilding Relationships
You may not be able to mend all the fences broken by your substance use disorder. However, carrying the guilt and shame of past offenses will hinder your recovery. Follow the tips below to engage family and friends in productive conversations.
If you are an introvert, you may find communication challenging. During your addiction therapy, you engage in individual therapy and group therapy sessions. This treatment will allow you to learn how to express your emotions. You can use these new skills to start to let the walls down and connect with family members you may not have seen for a while.
You can walk through the conversation in your mind, starting with your growth in recovery. Let them know that you still have more growth in front of you, but you would like to have a relationship with them again. If meeting a person seems problematic, try sending a letter or email to get your feelings out.
In order to maintain a relationship, you have to remain active within it. When you were using drugs and alcohol, they probably took precedence over family and friends. Rebuilding relationships with your kid and spouse poses a particular challenge due to neglect or absence. Whether you are still together or not, making amends with your spouse will show that you have good intentions. It may also improve your relationship with your children if you have any.
Take the time to get to know the most important people in your life. Learn what their interests are and show up for basketball games, concerts, and other events that matter to them. Leaving a handwritten note on a countertop or surprising everybody with a home-cooked meal can go a long way toward showing you are back for good.
Our staff of licensed therapists can help you open up about your feelings, which can also help you maintain your recovery.
Ask for Forgiveness
In order to live without denial, you have to admit to yourself that you have made mistakes in the past. Asking forgiveness allows you to move forward without shame or guilt. Not everyone will be open to your apology. However, friendships that are worth keeping are worth fighting to keep. So, don’t give up on the first try.
Rebuilding relationships means regaining trust. If you are honest about the mistakes you’ve made and sincerely ask forgiveness, your success rate may surprise you. You have to prove that you can keep your promises. However, taking the first steps shows that you care.
Find a Local Meeting
Local support groups can help you share your experiences and get the advice of others who have gone through the same experience. Not all of your attempts will work out. However, it’s your effort that matters when it comes to achieving long-term sobriety and drug-free living.
When you attend meetings, you can also help others by sharing your experience. Accountability can help you maintain your sobriety and avoid a relapse. In addition, meetings provide another venue to work on rebuilding relationships, even if they are new ones.
Our alumni program also provides support and tools that can help you with rebuilding relationships.
Prepare for Resistance
Rebuilding relationships can only work if your friends and family meet you halfway. While you were using drugs and alcohol and going through substance abuse addiction treatment, they moved on with their lives. Not everyone will open up and welcome you back into their lives. Try not to take this too personally and leave the door open for a future relationship if they want it.
Seek Treatment at Sunflower Wellness Retreat
At Sunflower Wellness Retreat in Osawatomie, Kansas, we emphasize the importance of rebuilding relationships. Through our family therapy and addiction therapy programs, clients receive the tools they need to make amends and continue on the road to recovery. You don’t have to remain isolated as you reclaim your life. Contact us at 855.730.8825 to learn more about addiction recovery and aftercare programs.